General feelings on love.

We all have different opinions and ideas on how love should be portrayed. Each of us has our own set of ideals about it and its a good thing if that is the case with you. Even I have mine.

I will admit that in my younger years, I was made to hate myself and everything about me. All the quirks and flaws and imperfections. The fact that I have a photographic memory, self-trained, and could just absorb everything like a sponge.

For some reason, many feel like love in real life is the same as in the movies. In reality, true love does not work that way. It is not all chocolates and roses and whimsical things all the time. Real love, in the real world is hard work. It takes alot of effort from both parties, one person cannot be doing all the work in the relationship. The most important relationship in your life should be with yourself, look inside of yourself and recognise that person on the inside. Learn to love and accept yourself, #beyourself #loveyourself. This is the most important thing to remember because so long as you mean something to you, then that will get noticed by someone special and you will become special in their lives and them in yours.

Back in 2009, when I had made the decision to just be myself and see where the world would take me, I was in the darkest mental and emotional space that I had ever been in my entire, because when I decided as a young child after telling my om that I wanted to go to school because I was ready to make friends of my own. It was alot harder for me, and I was only three years old when I made that call, my own decision, my parents didn't decide when it was time, I made the choice all on my own. My parents found a nursery school for me in Westdene in JHB. I had come from a young childhood filled with constant love and affection only to be bullied by teachers and some of the other kids as well. I think that was when my journey downhill really started. If I got scared, some teachers would actually mock me for being a young innocent child who was scared and needed comforting to slowly dying inside. No child wants to have to go through that and as I grew up, it became harder and harder. One teacher literally spoke to me like that day in and day out. It was horrible.

I was fortunate that not all my teachers and the kids were like that but I did get accused on many occasions for copying and not thinking for myself more times that I can count. It hit me quite hard. It reached breaking point in 2001, when I was fifteen years old and landed up in the therapists office, that was because I was starting to have panic attacks, left, right and centre.

That call I made in 2009, three months after the official diagnosis on the anxiety was made, I had to learn to love myself, all over again, fast forward eleven years now, I am a much stronger, much healthier version of myself. I am in the best shape of my life and will honestly admit, as I have many times before, that my #ootd's these days would never have even been a thought in my mind back then.

So this is today's one

As a result of finally loving myself and accepting myself as I am and figuring out what is best for me and not what others think is best has resulted in a genuine smile on my face every single day. A smile that never leaves my face even when I go to bed at night

Another thing that has played a pivotal role in my transformation has been a very stringent, disciplined and well thought out exercise routine. It includes, yoga, meditation, running and walking as well as body weight training, basically a form of calisthenics training to build my body up naturally and without the need for supplements. Eating right is also a crucial factor. All of this has played a key role in getting me to be in the best shape of my life and resulting in me loving myself completely and unconditionally. So when this active gear gets put on, its get up and go time to the very last rep and second.

The fact that I have nature on my doorstep, and I am a big nature lover is an essential factor. Many people forget or don't realise how soothing and healing nature can be, try it. You will not regret it.

Who is going to get upset and not inspired by that wonderful view and atmosphere that is so soothing. I sure am.

As I have said, this is just a general post from my own experiences on what love is and how I show it to myself and the world. I think many people can learn alot from my story and my journey of self-love and transforming into the person I was always meant to be.

So, I hope this has been a motivational factor for many of you that it is possible for you to have love in your life and to learn to love yourself in every way.

So until next time, see y'all soon

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